When all is said and done, no matter what we think we want: money, health, possessions, relationships, travel, success, consideration, good looks and a great body, it all comes down to the bottom line…. we want peace of mind. We believe that when we get what we want or arrive to that precise destination, we can finally experience peace of mind.
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Years ago, at a workshop on spiritual and personal development, I participated in an exercise intended on reaching the bottom line of what truly matters in our lives. Of course, a very personal matter, each one of us has specific desires shaped by our background, environment, education, lifestyle, beliefs, and our mental and emotional capacity to foresee a future of joy and peace. 

How often have we heard the statement from someone who has been traveling, ‘It was good to come home.’

I have certainly felt the welcome of my own home even after a day’s work at the salon. And as the holidays get closer, yes! the holidays begin in a month, the thought of coming home ushers in yet another interpretation of coming home.
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A few years ago, I was introduced to Joanna and Chip Gains, The Fixer Upper Show. While traveling to San Diego to visit my new grandson Finn, I would stay at a hotel and while relaxing in the evenings in my room, I would binge on their home renovation and design program.
I was entertained and enjoyed watching their personal, as well as their working relationship as they demolished and rebuilt homes and brought joy to anticipating families. A sort of love story with a happy coming home ending…. every time.

​This July our Pandora Music at the salon insisted on playing Christmas music. It made us laugh. 
Over the 4th of July weekend, I drove to San Diego with my sister,Maggie, and her husband, Gary. I sat in the back seat of their SUV, feeling like Ms. Daisy, with a great driver. Maggie and I remembered our times traveling with our parents to California. We laughed as we told our stories and Gary made sure he found the cleanest restrooms for us to stop. The more we laughed, the more we had to stop. We recommend the restrooms at Home Depot in El Centro. 

Although Samantha at the salon is quiet in her manner, she has a great sense of humor. Actually, she is really funny with remarks about things that I completely miss. We laugh…a lot. 
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When women make a list of the kind of man they want for a life companion, sense of humor is a top 3 quality. I agree, and I’m sure that goes for men as well, right after good looking. 

One thing I know for sure, words are powerful. Whether written or spoken, words can transform lives, destroy hopes, quell fears, inspire dreams, confirm expectations and fill us with a lifetime of experiences and possibilities. 
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When I begin the process of writing a Snippets article, I consider the holiday for the month and a theme that will support the holiday. Next, I pay attention for words that will fit the theme. Sometimes it’s through reading books or articles, hearing a podcast or joining a room on clubhouse and many times, it’s a client who will drop a word in my thoughts as happened with last month’s theme, ‘good enough’ from my friend Stephanie. This month considering the 4th of July celebration, I’ve collected a few influential words through quotes that came my way, reminding me of the precious freedoms we have in our country.  The quotes are in bold, followed by my insights.

While Mary Beth and I were writing our fourth book in the Living Brave series, Finishing Strong…Stories of Women Becoming, a certain word kept coming up during the interviews with the women we interviewed: enough. When are you enough?

The answers surprised us and equally confirmed our own feelings of becoming enough. We discovered most young women struggle with feeling enough, Especially before reaching the age of 50. After 50 women wrote they began to understand that enough is not based on having or doing more or being perfect. It was accepting where they had landed in life, no matter the previous circumstances. It was good enough. 

It must be maturity coming over me, but when I hear the words ‘one moment please’ it doesn’t bother me. It used to irritate me. Having to wait and feeling dismissed by 3 words. Didn’t they know I didn’t have an extra moment to wait? Why did they bother to answer if I was going to wait anyway? And on and on I thought while waiting. What a self-important pill I was. And now, I’m thrilled to hear a human’s voice on the line. It gives me time to prepare myself even better with my question or directive or it becomes a reminder to breathe. So many of us are not breathing enough these days. 

I have come to know that life still happens in the moments while we are waiting. Take one moment please. Review, remember, and breathe. 

Jackie Ulmer, business consultant and social media expert sent this to her group. Simple, fun and poignant!  “Life is best consumed as an analogy, in my opinion. Recently, on Clubhouse I heard this analogy about life and business.

​We should all have a 'Wishbone'. That’s essentially our bucket list. Write it down, develop it and be intentional with it.

To best navigate life, it’s important that we also have a 'Funnybone', and that’s to remember to keep a sense of humor about the good and the bad that life deals us.  

I was born to family of resilient women. My grandmother, Romana Villaverde, a Yaqui Indian from the mountains of Hermosillo Mexico, survived with her family eating high desert plants and drinking milk from a goat. Married as a teenager, widowed in her thirties with four children, she lived to be 94. At 92, her doctor recommended she stop smoking. She asked why.

​My mother Maria lived just short of her 92nd birthday. She was courageous, resilient and a loving force to be reckoned with. She was unstoppable when she made up her mind. I think she made up her mind the day she was born under harsh, poverty-stricken circumstances. She remained persistent and resilient throughout her entire life. She mastered ‘bouncing back.’ 

Love is a funny emotion. You can feel it, see it, want it, give it, hate it and be grateful for it. You can wish you were in love or wish you could stop loving someone because you know it’s time to stop. Or you can wish you still loved someone because it would be the wise thing to do. 
Love is magical and confusing. It’s just not the same for everyone. 

For several years I have written a yearly February article on love. And three years ago, Mary Beth and I wrote a book about it, Living Brave…In Love, Stories of Intimacy Lost and Found.  It's a great collection of love stories and was an eye-opener for both of us…we thought we knew much about love!  Worth the read. Especially the novelette in the center of the book, The Two Night Stand. Another confusing story of being loved, losing love, finding love, absolving love.  

I read an article in The Epoch Times, by Joshua Becker in the Mind & Body Section: ‘You Can’t Quite Buy Happiness, but Almost. Researchers have found there are specific ways to spend your money if you want to increase happiness.’ I would love to share the entire piece with you, but I can’t (it’s plagiarism). But instead, will present the heart of the article. I found it relevant to beginning a new year with the question, can we buy happiness?
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I’ve often said, money can’t buy happiness, but money can give us choices. I have struggled financially in my life where a bit of money would have presented better choices and put a happy smile on my face, but instead it planted seeds for happier times to come as well as an appreciation of the money when it came.